Grief Support Groups: How do you find the right one?

Grief support groups are a difficult topic for both grievers and therapists. Neither grievers nor therapists who are grieving are willing to attend a support group. A full 70% will never step foot in one. The list of reasons why includes not wanting to hear other ‘s sad stories, not wanting to be sad in…

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When a young parent is dying, how do we help?

I frequently receive messages from other therapists and allied health professionals who are confronted with a grief moment they feel unprepared to handle. There really is no higher compliment than to be asked to step in from a distance to offer support as they support their client. Recently there was a request about a young…

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Support facing suicide

I am currently in Visalia, California, to attend and speak at the National Team Loss Conference. If you are not aware of the Team Loss concept, it is a postvention program for suicide prevention and support for survivors. I am surrounded by people from all over the country who are doing the work to help…

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You Can’t Still Smell The Flowers

I’m preparing a short talk about dementia for therapists next month and went looking for some graphics. I almost choked when I read one sweet looking thing about what dementia caregivers need to know about dementia. The first thoughts were reasonable: Don’t argue with someone who has dementia Be patient Watch your frustration level Then…

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Doing Grief Right

Every time I come to a conference I am touched by the stories I hear, particularly from other therapists. Today was one of those moments. I met someone whose friend lost a loved one, and the intimate partner of the loved one was being treated less than kindly by the extended circle because they chose…

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Easter and Passover in Grief

My role in this program is not to assume you have a certain belief system, or even that you have any belief system. However, there are some days on the religious calendar that are unavoidable and whose messages can make grief more of a challenge. Easter is one of those. Passover as well. In the…

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When your client is facing a chosen death

I have had contact with a number of people online who have faced a loved one with terminal illness and chose to end their life before their illness ended it for them. Some are aware it is coming, others have already experienced the loss. How do you help your client in moments such as that?…

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Grieving lost sexual intimacy

My recent research has been about grieving sexuality during a terminal illness and after the death of an intimate partner. There is very little published data about this, and the data that does exist suggests that neither hospice staff nor grief therapists, or even friends, consider this something to be discussed. The sad part, for…

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